I know it's so usual but... I really, wish I loved work. Why is it I couldn't posess the ability to kick butt at customer service and influence people to buy AT LEAST three items and get them to open a credit card.
I guess I probably know why.
Deep down, I don't want people wasting their money at a clothing store. This is NOT saying that I do not support buying clothes. I sure do, because I don't want to see any naked people. What I'm saying is people spend and spend and spend on things that already have, and don't need.
I can't sell anybody credit cards because I just think it sucks. And through all this Dave Ramsey teaching, it's just not the way. The company, however, is making a super smart decision. People spend more when they have debit cards or credit cards (credit cards because they don't really even have the money in the first place). I cannot sell a credit card with a clear conscious.
I believe I have been doing pretty good though with selling clothes, and almost all of the clients I work with, go out of that store with something. But still, I have this inkling from my boss that I'm not doing as well as I should be at this point. I am falling behind.
So why do I feel like I need to stay where I'm working? It's just so weird. I got a call from another job to come in and do a questionare to proceed with an interview, but I just... don't feel right about it...
But then again... I feel like crud where I'm at, and I'm just as confused staying.
BLllllargh.
Friday, May 20, 2011
Thursday, May 12, 2011
RANT
I work in a clothing store, and although I'm really thankful that I have a job, I just feel stuck. I don't really want to support selling clothes that people get paid crap for making. I want to find a job where I can just help families in practical ways that are in a time of struggle.
It really blows that you need a degree to do anything of this sort and get paid for it. And it really blows that when you get a piece of paper, it shows that for some reason, you deserve to make more money the rest who haven't earned this. I get that people invested their time and money into educating themselves about the feild they are interested in, but that doesn't mean they are "better" at their job than those who haven't.
Then again, how do you even give a defintion for "better".
Huh... now I'm ranting.
It really blows that you need a degree to do anything of this sort and get paid for it. And it really blows that when you get a piece of paper, it shows that for some reason, you deserve to make more money the rest who haven't earned this. I get that people invested their time and money into educating themselves about the feild they are interested in, but that doesn't mean they are "better" at their job than those who haven't.
Then again, how do you even give a defintion for "better".
Huh... now I'm ranting.
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Pornography
I am currently doing a survey on pornography. I haven't read much at all about the subject, so I'm really interested to what I find. I will probably post my findings on here so all zero of my readers can take a look.
Pornography is also something I've I always been highly against. I don't see it as being a healthy outlet, or a good thing in relationships.
Because I have such a closed mind about this topic, I thought it would be very good of me to see how other people think about the subject, and how it affects their relationships, and actually open up my mind.
I need to interview with a few people today as well... which will be a little more difficult...
I may just have to turn it in tomorrow... I don't know.
Maybe, procrastination, is not the best thing ever. Or maybe, I just need to quit being so stressed about everything. That might stop the procrastination.
Pornography is also something I've I always been highly against. I don't see it as being a healthy outlet, or a good thing in relationships.
Because I have such a closed mind about this topic, I thought it would be very good of me to see how other people think about the subject, and how it affects their relationships, and actually open up my mind.
I need to interview with a few people today as well... which will be a little more difficult...
I may just have to turn it in tomorrow... I don't know.
Maybe, procrastination, is not the best thing ever. Or maybe, I just need to quit being so stressed about everything. That might stop the procrastination.
Monday, May 2, 2011
Pre-marital Counseling.
I was happy to find out today, in my sociology class, that those who are married and have recieved pre-marital counseling are statistcally show that they are less likely to get divorced.
Hubby and I recieved pre-marital counseling before we got married. It was extremely eye opening and totally applicable. We had our counseling with our Pastor, so we were also provided insight to growing towards God together as a married couple. We also went through really simple things, that actually made living together easier. What I mean by simple things is chores around the house and other roles. First we went through a list of chores by ourselves to see who we expected would do what, as well as other things like, who is the navigater and who is the driver? Who picks up the gifts for the gift occasions? After we checked off who we expected, we went through together and discussed our answers. This may seem like a silly thing to do, but I'm super glad chores around the house are not a stressful thing. We indentified what chores and other stuff we as an individual would do, and now it's hardly a stresser in our marriage. We have only been married for about five months though, so I can imagine that roles and those sorts of things will need to re-evaluated at some point, but right now, there is little stress about it.
We also discussed about finances. Being young and in college, this was an important thing to discuss beforehand. Not only did we figure out who will be taking on the budgeting role moreso, but we started an early budget so we could know what to expect. I never in a million years thought that I would be the one to manage the budget. Hubby of course plays a gigantic role in planning the budget too. He is an overall picture guy and I'm the detailed one. But growing up, my dad is (and still is) the manager of the money, so I kinda expected Hubby to also take the lead. But with our personality types, it works better the other way around haha. But this is something we discovered in our counseling before getting married. If we had waited until afterward, I would have naturally taken the lead on the budgeting and finances, but it would have been reluctantly.
Just because Hubby and I took pre-marital counseling, it's not like we are the perfect spouses. But it definetly allowed us to see married life through each other's eyes. And it helped to have a Pastor that has counseled people and knows his stuff.
One thing that really stuck with me was talking about divorce. Our Pastor told us that if you even let that thought creep BEFORE you are married, in a way like, "I'm going to get divorced if..." or "Let's get a pre-nup", you are already setting yourself up for failure. You are already letting the idea of that MIGHT happening.
Statistics are great to show us overal as a country who is getting divorced and what is it correlated with, but don't set yourself up for failure or success based on the statistics. I think Hubby and I would kinda be in the failure range... hahaha. Love you Hubby. :)
Hubby and I recieved pre-marital counseling before we got married. It was extremely eye opening and totally applicable. We had our counseling with our Pastor, so we were also provided insight to growing towards God together as a married couple. We also went through really simple things, that actually made living together easier. What I mean by simple things is chores around the house and other roles. First we went through a list of chores by ourselves to see who we expected would do what, as well as other things like, who is the navigater and who is the driver? Who picks up the gifts for the gift occasions? After we checked off who we expected, we went through together and discussed our answers. This may seem like a silly thing to do, but I'm super glad chores around the house are not a stressful thing. We indentified what chores and other stuff we as an individual would do, and now it's hardly a stresser in our marriage. We have only been married for about five months though, so I can imagine that roles and those sorts of things will need to re-evaluated at some point, but right now, there is little stress about it.
We also discussed about finances. Being young and in college, this was an important thing to discuss beforehand. Not only did we figure out who will be taking on the budgeting role moreso, but we started an early budget so we could know what to expect. I never in a million years thought that I would be the one to manage the budget. Hubby of course plays a gigantic role in planning the budget too. He is an overall picture guy and I'm the detailed one. But growing up, my dad is (and still is) the manager of the money, so I kinda expected Hubby to also take the lead. But with our personality types, it works better the other way around haha. But this is something we discovered in our counseling before getting married. If we had waited until afterward, I would have naturally taken the lead on the budgeting and finances, but it would have been reluctantly.
Just because Hubby and I took pre-marital counseling, it's not like we are the perfect spouses. But it definetly allowed us to see married life through each other's eyes. And it helped to have a Pastor that has counseled people and knows his stuff.
One thing that really stuck with me was talking about divorce. Our Pastor told us that if you even let that thought creep BEFORE you are married, in a way like, "I'm going to get divorced if..." or "Let's get a pre-nup", you are already setting yourself up for failure. You are already letting the idea of that MIGHT happening.
Statistics are great to show us overal as a country who is getting divorced and what is it correlated with, but don't set yourself up for failure or success based on the statistics. I think Hubby and I would kinda be in the failure range... hahaha. Love you Hubby. :)
Friday, April 29, 2011
Marriage
Today, we learned about some statistics with marriage, some of which I already knew.
I did not know though that you're at a risk of divorce if marrying 20 or under. The only reason why I kinda care about this, is because Hubby and I were both 20 when we got married. SO. Causes for divorce around this time? Money and the fact that brains don't fully develop until 21 (I thought this fact was different for the genders. Men's brains taking longer than women's... But I guess I'll look that up).
Even though going into our marriage Hubby and I knew we were going to pretty poor, we had a plan. Our plan was to work part time so we'll be able to go to school full time, and get financial aid to make up for the money we won't be making. However, AFTER getting married we took a financial class (Why or why didn't we BEFORE, I don't know). While learning about all the money things in America, we realized that it is not a goal to start our life after college with tons of student debt, when our goal is to probably buy a house.
So now, we're even more poor, and a little in debt with one credit card.
But my teacher also brought up another interesting point. Even though the number one cause for divorce is money and sex, there's is always something to keep in mind. Usually, there's an underlying cause for just about everything. So the issues of money and sex, can be really issues of respect and time.
I'm not sure if statistically this means that instead of actually arguing about the sex, you could be arguing about the fact that one (or both) may not be setting aiside for time for it. But in my opinion, it seems like that would be the better route.
Hubby and I had never had arguments on money issues, even though we got married at 20 and have very little of it. Sure, we have had very stressing moments, and I complain a lot about it, and sometimes he wants to buy something that we can't afford so we have to talk about it. But the way I kinda see it, we're getting through most of the worst of the money problems now, and it's strengthening our relationship for more of the worst later. But I can bet that if "money" because an extreme issue for conflict, it's probably something else as well (respect, trust, ect.).
Thanks Hubby for being amazing. :) I know we have so much trust in each other because we have trust in God.
I did not know though that you're at a risk of divorce if marrying 20 or under. The only reason why I kinda care about this, is because Hubby and I were both 20 when we got married. SO. Causes for divorce around this time? Money and the fact that brains don't fully develop until 21 (I thought this fact was different for the genders. Men's brains taking longer than women's... But I guess I'll look that up).
Even though going into our marriage Hubby and I knew we were going to pretty poor, we had a plan. Our plan was to work part time so we'll be able to go to school full time, and get financial aid to make up for the money we won't be making. However, AFTER getting married we took a financial class (Why or why didn't we BEFORE, I don't know). While learning about all the money things in America, we realized that it is not a goal to start our life after college with tons of student debt, when our goal is to probably buy a house.
So now, we're even more poor, and a little in debt with one credit card.
But my teacher also brought up another interesting point. Even though the number one cause for divorce is money and sex, there's is always something to keep in mind. Usually, there's an underlying cause for just about everything. So the issues of money and sex, can be really issues of respect and time.
I'm not sure if statistically this means that instead of actually arguing about the sex, you could be arguing about the fact that one (or both) may not be setting aiside for time for it. But in my opinion, it seems like that would be the better route.
Hubby and I had never had arguments on money issues, even though we got married at 20 and have very little of it. Sure, we have had very stressing moments, and I complain a lot about it, and sometimes he wants to buy something that we can't afford so we have to talk about it. But the way I kinda see it, we're getting through most of the worst of the money problems now, and it's strengthening our relationship for more of the worst later. But I can bet that if "money" because an extreme issue for conflict, it's probably something else as well (respect, trust, ect.).
Thanks Hubby for being amazing. :) I know we have so much trust in each other because we have trust in God.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Blargh.
Even with all the things I'm blessed is, I'm still not content.
I'm tired of judgemental, mean, ungrateful, people. I know so many people that feel like that they want to be like our compassionate, awesome God that are doing the simple things to start acting like it. I'm so thankful that I have a husband that will tell me when I'm being a complete ass. I so wish though I had more friends that would do the same, and do the same for each other.
I'm so tired of the "American Dream" garbage. There is no equal opportunity here in America. Our system doesn't give that opportunity. There are exceptions, I just wish it was just the norm that people were able to get their family out of poverty without being looked down upon along the way.
I wish these people I know as Christians, and higher class people in this nation, understood the hardships of people. That they took the consideration to think about their background and what they've been through, instead of assuming things.
I don't know how, but as a child, I somehow was taught that America was the best. Why aren't we taught that countries are doing some things worse, but some things better? Why aren't we realizing these things when we're well into adulthood? I'm so tired of people thinking they know the facts but have no idea. Or they don't want to know the facts because they don't agree with a certain politician. I'm tired of people who are still only mad about certain president or the current President, instead of having well formulated opinions and supporting what they believe is right, whether or not that President is supporting it. Everyone is just so mad all the time.
And I'm just one of the many...
I know I'm no better than others.
I'm just trying to figure out where to go with all these feelings, fears, frustrations, and doubts.
I'm tired of judgemental, mean, ungrateful, people. I know so many people that feel like that they want to be like our compassionate, awesome God that are doing the simple things to start acting like it. I'm so thankful that I have a husband that will tell me when I'm being a complete ass. I so wish though I had more friends that would do the same, and do the same for each other.
I'm so tired of the "American Dream" garbage. There is no equal opportunity here in America. Our system doesn't give that opportunity. There are exceptions, I just wish it was just the norm that people were able to get their family out of poverty without being looked down upon along the way.
I wish these people I know as Christians, and higher class people in this nation, understood the hardships of people. That they took the consideration to think about their background and what they've been through, instead of assuming things.
I don't know how, but as a child, I somehow was taught that America was the best. Why aren't we taught that countries are doing some things worse, but some things better? Why aren't we realizing these things when we're well into adulthood? I'm so tired of people thinking they know the facts but have no idea. Or they don't want to know the facts because they don't agree with a certain politician. I'm tired of people who are still only mad about certain president or the current President, instead of having well formulated opinions and supporting what they believe is right, whether or not that President is supporting it. Everyone is just so mad all the time.
And I'm just one of the many...
I know I'm no better than others.
I'm just trying to figure out where to go with all these feelings, fears, frustrations, and doubts.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Sunshine.
Today, I shall frolic.
I shall skip, wave my arms, and sing.
Today, I play in the sunshine.
And eat at the beach.
I shall skip, wave my arms, and sing.
Today, I play in the sunshine.
And eat at the beach.
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